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Limits are Limiting to the Self - Sue Folley

11/7/2015

(previously featured in Sue's website - thecauseandeffect.com)

Stories began from the moment you were born. Through listening, touching, seeing, smelling and interacting with your parents or siblings as they were your support team for survival. Children are in 'theta' state most of the time. Theta has also been identified as the gateway to learning and memory. Theta state is where insights occur, or re-programming of the mind occur. It makes sense then that children are like little 'sponges' absorbing so much of their environment and retaining memory of experiences so that survival is at its strongest. A theorist called Erik Erikson (1902 - 1994) said that one of the stages of development was where a child learns to have Autonomy Vs Shame and Doubt. Another theorist called Jean Piaget (1896 - 1990) said that between the ages of 2 - 7 is where a child sees the world as if it evolved around the 'self'. As a young child learns to make simple choices to start building up their self-esteem and confidence, experiences become part of the memory game. This is a time where children learn what guilty feels like as they adjust to the boundaries that are put in place when simple choices don't go according to plan. They may even learn to feel ashamed at what they did as they recognise that the world isn't all about 'self'. A child's world is full of expieriences and memories of what to do again and not what to do again.

So a story begins with interactions with others and experiences, reactions to others and experiences and therefore memories get laid down into the subconscious mind.

The subconscious mind is the emotional mind and is there to inform you how to deal with events on an emotional level. The conscious mind is there to inform you how to deal with events on a logical level. The conscious mind is also known as the 'Ego'

MEMORIES:
We hold onto them and mostly love them when the feelings are great. Some people have memories that keep them held within 'limits' as a reminder that the experience or event doesn't occur again. Some people don't remember 'memories of events' because the emotional intensity is quite high. This is one of the ways that the subconscious mind protects the 'self' by putting those memories that have emotional intensity down deep so that the 'self' is protected in ways for continued survival. Therefore, limits to the 'self' creep in and the mindset says "Don't go to that place again where there is emotional intensity" - It makes sense if your story has put limits in place for you because it is there to protect you from having a negative emotional intensity. We are not designed to cope with negative emotional intensity day after day and week after week. Our 'being' is always trying to reach balance and one of those ways of keeping 'balance' is to tuck away emotions that hurt.

Just like any memory, it sits in the PAST and has its foundation in the PAST. Just like the experience of a child that learns to adjust to the boundaries laid down by parents and experiences with others. Has your past created guilt or shame about doing something wrong? - Does your current situation create feeling guilty about something that you know you shouldn't feel guilty about?

As far as the subconscious mind is concerned, it doesn't want to have those experiences that have emotional intensity attached to them so it believes that the 'set of rules' that were established in the PAST are still current in the PRESENT. They remain that way until new evidence informs you that limits can change and can have a different emotional outcome.

Theta State frequency (of relaxation) is also where meditation creates new insights and where re-programming can occur. E.F.T. uses the energetic flow of the meridians that taps back into where the 'core' issues began (or the event). As the theorist of Piaget suggests, the learning of a 2 - 7 year old is all about the 'self' and so if there has been a negative experience, there is a disruption to the body's energy system. As the 2 - 7 year old is a time about 'self' it is also a time where learning to feel guilty, I'm not good enough, shamed, sad or embarrassed, because there has been a disruption to their world of 'self' when the world was all about living in 2 - 7 year old zone.

E.F.T. is a place for anyone that has Limiting Beliefs that have an emotional intensity. EFT gently goes back to the memories which established the set of rules to live by (where those limits were put in place). If you have limited yourself to keeping in your comfort zone, yet would love to step out of your limits and into a different mindset, then EFT helps with that mindset on an energetic level by tapping on the meridians and repeating simple phrases.

It is safe and can be used alongside other healing modalities.

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